We all know the general rule of how to tell if someone is a bad person:
How they treat their sisters and mothers
How they treat people who can do nothing for them
These are just the basics...
Here are some things I learned the HARD WAY:
Watch how someone thinks and does when they are at their lowest points in life. Some people self-medicate with cheap sex, drugs and alcohol at their lowest points. Some people hate a vulnerable group of humans (women), e.g. Andrew Tate fans, when they are at their lowest.
Pay attention to how people sympathize with others. For example: I once had two guy friends who followed me on Instagram and viewed my stories for over 2 to 4 years, even when they KNEW that I wanted something more romantically. Granted nothing happened, but one of their then-girlfriends found out and confronted them about it. He got defensive and couldn't see her point of view... (How would you feel if your girlfriend got pursued by a guy friend of hers, and that guy viewed her stories for a long time...). The inability to resist temptation is a hallmark of someone morally mediocre.
Cheating starts with curiosity.
Bad people like to justify their actions by saying, "Everyone does it," to absolve themselves of guilt.
Some people act very kind and charitable, not from the goodness of their hearts, but for validation, and to over-compensate for a dark past, e.g. Bill Gates.
People who are close to people who have questionable morals - watch the F out.
Just because what you see in front of you, is seemingly a good person, doesn't mean that he or she is what they seem. When the right opportunities present themselves, this type of seemingly good person, who's condoned his or her friends' bad actions, will act on their bad impulses, 9/10.
Finally, People with zero moral conviction - this type of person thinks everyone has the RIGHT POV. My parents tell me that this type of person will go to whichever side will give them the MOST benefit.๐. If the good side seemingly wins, they lean towards the good side; conversely, if the dark side wins, they adapt and go to the dark side. ๐.
People who "bread-crumb" you, in a romantic setting!!! They are inherently irresponsible & unreliable!!! If someone in your life, is currently "viewing" your stories, flirting with you, being nice to you, BUT the relationship HAS NOT materialized in a span of three months? DITCH!!!
(The immoral dating market creates immoral people - I get that. But the RIGHT THING TO DO, is to learn to discern who is a good person and who ain't! You always play games with bad people, not the good ones! ๐).
You have been forewarned.
Shout out to the morally mediocre people who appeared in my life. ๐. And taught me several life-long lessons books didn't educate me on.
If nobody told you that you are not that good of a person, then you should know the truth. ๐.
Everyone has a price but some have a shockingly low price. I try to surround myself with people who have a stronger moral compass; that way, I protect and am protected.