Being a Big Picture Thinker - If You're 2nd Choice, That is Okay

Being a Big Picture Thinker - If You're 2nd Choice, That is Okay


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Now I am already hearing in the back of my mind that someone will be refuting this comment by saying,

"Don't settle for less than what you deserve." This is precisely WHY so many millennials still don't settle for jobs nor partners that are befitting their rank - we as a collective tend to over-estimate our market value.

I had two female friends tell me when I was 24, 25, that they broke up with their boyfriends, upon finding out that they were second, or third choice. Back then, I totally thought that that was inappropriate, after all: We all deserve to have someone who is sure of us.

WHAT... This is the biggest lie mediums tell us: Sometimes not even you ARE SURE of a job or person and you expect a guy who's lived as long as you, experienced as little as you, probably reads less than you, TO KNOW. Most of us don't even know ourselves very well, let alone choose compatible partners. ๐Ÿ˜‚

I just want everyone to process information logically with their left brains, instead of emotions when they first get in touch with advice. ๐Ÿ˜‚

*Most people are not introspective enough to know who they are, what they are capable of, what they are good at, and what kind of people can add value to their lives*. ๐Ÿ˜ฒ

After I turned 24, I started hearing stories of people settling for "less than what they deserve", accepting the fact that he or she is second choice or third choice, and in the end, it all worked out. It turned out that the guy or the girl who deemed them "not first choice", LMAO, didn't know themselves enough to recognize that the 2nd or 3rd choice is the one for them. By the time they were sure of that 2nd or 3rd choice, thankfully that person is still with them.

If a job or someone in your life, once upon a time, wasn't sure about you, but now IS - please accept them into your life, unless you find someone or something more compatible to you. What difference does it make in the end? He or she will cherish you in the long run. People who initially are sure about one another, fall out of love all the time.

You are not going to have every desirable job trait nor partner trait you want; eventually, everyone settles.